This an exciting weekend for me because all of my wonderful bridesmaids (except one ) are coming in for a weekend of food, fun and 80s night. It's kind of funny since I'm out of the loop since no one's telling me what's going to happen or what's going on. I've been told already that I'll be kicked out of the room when all the bridesmaids arrive tonight so they can discuss what plans will be.

All I've been told is that tomorrow night is going to be food, karaoke and a lot of dancing... to 80s music!!! I believe we're going to a 80s dance club, I can't wait!!!! I LOVE the 80s!!!!! So I will definitely update with pictures and stories once the weekend is over but I'd thought I'd share with weddingbee the things the girls have done so far.

As far as the shower - my sister (MOH) and my best friend from high school are already baking as we speak. We have on the menu: creme puffs (yes homemade), truffle brownies, white cake with strawberry frosting in heart shape individual cups, chocolate molten cakes, lots of candies in glass jars with ribbons tied around them, japanese snackies. My mom is cooking korean food: mandoo (dumplings), japchae (noodles w/veg and meat), kimbap (korean sushi), teriyaki chicken wings and I forget what else. But the cutest part of all is - they're all in my kitchen right now and I hear them talking and sometimes whispering.

Tomorrow's going to be a lot of fun and I'll be sure to take tons of pics so that you girls can get ideas from my bridesmaids!!!! I'm a lucky girl. Here are some of the things they already had ready. (The mochi we're eating at the moment hehe)

lipgloss/hand lotion favours, chocolates in vases, jelly bellys and creme puffs

shower gel prizes, chocolates in vases again

pockys, candies and such.

chocolate molten cake! (prior to baking)

My friend Sydney (who's dating one of our groomsmen) is the absolute best! She went back to Korea to visit her family and guess what she does for me? She goes and buys me a hanbok (Korean dress) so I can wear it at the reception! It's so pretty and I can't wait to put it on!!!

note: colours are brighter in person

What's even more amazing is that all of the women on my side of the family are wearing one, Sydney's wearing one and hopefully whoever else that has one will wear one too! It's going to be such a beautiful aspect to our wedding especially since hanboks are very colourful and elegant.

We had talked about doing a Paebaek (Korean Ceremony) but we're wondering about the price and also we don't know the order of everything involved in it. So unless we find a place that provides everything, including food and set up. I highly doubt we'll do that. It would have been fun for our non-Korean guests to see this during our reception but we shall see. I'm sure somewhere in the NYC there is a place for this - I'm just not familiar.

I simply can't wait to wear this! Much thanks to Sydney and her Mother for all their hard work finding me such a great hanbok. (For a GREAT price might I add)

It's been a little over a year since we've been engaged and I'm a really blessed girl. I've got a great fiance, great friends and my family is numero uno. In the beginning of wedding planning I was OCD about everything. I must have this done now, I need to do that soon etc... I thought I had things under control but in reality I felt like I was falling apart.

I had some people complain to me about not being involved with the wedding and guilt tripping me. Which I could handle at first. Then I get constant guilt tripping and I fell apart and cried. Then I had some people who wanted to invite their in laws to the wedding (whom I've never met) and I thought I was going nuts! I was so overwhelmed with people telling me what I should or shouldn't be doing or what people didn't like about the location or whatever else.... I ended up getting really upset.

So I stopped writing on Weddingbee not because I didn't want to share our wedding planning but because I was really stressed and put most of the wedding planning aside. I wanted the focus to be off the details of the wedding and wanted to emphasize relationships. Instead of eagerly deciding what flowers or centerpieces I should have... I had our wedding party over for a wine tasting and it truly made me smile. Instead of racking my brain over the cost of the wedding, I had some friends come over for dinner and sure... we talked about the wedding but we just enjoyed each other's company.

It's been working. I feel like I'm more connected with my friends and much more happier. Although the stress is still there, I can handle it much better because I don't feel like I'm at it alone. I admire you ladies who can plan everything down to the smallest things and I wish I were that organized but I'm not. Now I'm looking forward to the wedding and getting back to the planning, don't worry most of the major details are worked out. So hopefully this means Miss Poppy will be back more often - sharing with you things you probably know already.

I do hope that not too many brides have been as stressed as I have been the past couple months. But if you are - know that you're not alone and remember that the day is about you and your fiance. If the relationship is wonderful then your wedding is already a success! I know ours is and if things don't go exactly the way I planned - I'm okay with that because I'll already have everything I need at the wedding: My fiance, my family and my friends.